When do I begin to tell my child about their adoption? Should I tell my child her birth mother was a drug addict? What do I do if my child is angry and says that we are not his real parents? How do I handle hurtful comments made by my child’s friends or other adults? How do I find out what my child is really going through inside? What exactly should we tell children about their adoption story? And at what age?

This in-depth practical guide, written by an adoptive parent for adoptive parents, explores the questions adopted children are likely to ask, with suggestions for helpful explanations and answers. Looking at different age groups in turn, the author provides a wealth of suggestions for possible dialogue with adopted children and age-appropriate answers to common questions and fears.

The author draws on the experiences of other adoptive parents, who provide a rich resource of case stories, scenarios, experiences and conversations. This invaluable guide contains many practical tips and will give adoptive parents the confidence with which to help children come to terms with their adoption-related grief and discuss the known (or unknown) aspects of their adopted child’s past.

Who is this book for?

Adoptive parents looking for advice and ideas on how to talk to their child about their adoption and help them understand their history and background.

Although the guide focuses primarily on the needs and questions of children adopted from abroad, the practical advice given is applicable to any adopted child.

What you will find in this book

The book covers the following:

• How and when to tell your child their adoption story
• Common fears children have about adoption
• Advice on sharing particularly difficult information with your child
• Useful conversation techniques, including naming and identifying feelings
• How to make a memory book or life story book
• How to help your child deal with adoption-related grief, sadness and anger
• How to respond to questions from your child, family and friends, and others in your community

Renée Wolfs:
Renée Wolfs is a mother of three children adopted from China. She works as a freelance journalist, editor and author. Her personal involvement in adoption, coupled with her communication expertise and a knowledge of developmental psychology, led Renée to question what exactly children should be told about their adoption story, and at what age.